Because it's how we roll biatches...

I love that..."its how I roll" I personally enjoy adding biatch on the end for emphasis but that's just me.

Speaking of rolling I'd like to bring up cliques.

As women we live and die with cliques.

(Ladies...you are lying to yourselves if you don't and you know it)

I've come across a rather annoying clique at my gym. Becoming the gym rat that I have in the last few months its so funny to see the ancient social gathering of cliques. In fact I'm pretty positive after high school, college and yes even grad school...the gym and work are the next closest things you will find to high school cliques.

This one resides mostly in my spinning class or as the like to call it down here "cycling" (Which means no clips for my $80 pair of Nike spinning shoes...don't worry I have filled out a comment card already) The little group of middle-aged women (and I think one husband) have already decided to peg me out as the anti-Christ of their oh so wholesome little clique. Funny...its not the first time I've been hated by a wide group of people I don't know. Hmph, maybe its the 'tude.

Side note: At this gym because its owned by the City of Mauldin, SC means that anyone residing in the town and is a member or plays recreational sports in the basketball courts is allowed here, which leaves little space for a REAL spinning class. So there are only about 15 bikes, This also means you have to call in that morning to reserve your spot. And when I mean call in I mean like 6:45 AM today they were completely spoken for...the gym opens at 6AM. (Luckily me and big networking ass has an inside to someone that works the front desk and well I got an early spot last night) Bottom line...these bikes are sacred ground.

So back to the clique the spins. In the last week or so I've noticed the evil eye of said ladies and even had a few snickers and looks my way (mind you I sit in back...you know they are looking right at ya)

So today it got me thinking. (I know you are wondering...where's the freakin point you mumbling half wit!) About cliques.

I've never been one for them. In fact I roll with lots of biatches. Haha but in all my life I was never really set in just one clique.
-The jocks
-The drama girls
-The wanna-be's ( ok no I lied...in middle school I was totally a wanna-be but a single sex high school education totally changed that for me)
-The princesses
-The tough chicks
-The pretty bitches
-The insecure know-it-alls

Which makes me wonder, quite frankly I could care less who I hang with and really don't mind going it alone when in social situations as it is, but why the immature antics.

And it also it begs the question...why as women we like to do everything in a group and if said person is alone, do we feel bad or look down upon them or in my situation (s)...because it ain't the first time...do we cast them out.

I don't know I just find it insulting as women who have hopefully matured and grown past our differences in fashion, opinion, strengths and weaknesses that we don't accept each other for the good. Don't get me wrong some people are just a lost cause if they don't bring at least some kind of positivity to your life, but really is it too much to ask to get to know someone and even if they are incredibly better at spinning then you are (hehe).

It's a metaphor people...let's not get carried away.

Who loves a public library? I DO! I DO!

When I was a kid one of the things I loved to do most was to go to the library.  My mom would takes us a few times a month if not once a week, especially when she was in nursing school.  I loved going.  It was like some kind of high for me.  Walking into the front doors and the smell of old books, the plastic that covers those old books and moth balls.  Don't lie, you know your library smelled a bit like moth balls. 

Anyways I remember what I did everytime I went to the library, dropped off our old library books...usually pay a fine because my sisters and I were NEVER good about bringing books back in time...grab a drink of water at the water fountain.  Why? I don't know it was some big kid thing I like to do at the time.  The water was always freezing and refreshing, like good kool-aid. 

So one of the first things I did when I moved here is to get a library card.  Ok well Kyle got one and I'm just using it.  Once I have my SC license I can get one too.  But ANYWAYS...it felt like Christmas.  One thing I lost while being away in college, working full time and so on was reading a good book.  I always loved walking around Barnes & Noble for hours and I have bought hundreds of books.  When I could be saving tons of money by reading FREE books!  Duh?  Free books?  It's my way of saving money and riding through this recession.  

So my point is I think its just one small step of slowing down a bit while I'm in the south and remember things that made me happy in my past.  And who doesn't like to save money?  

Yum-o's, Rock of Love Bus & the Clemson Tigers

I don't know about you but I LOVE to make my own food.  Even more then I like eating out at a great new restaurant.  Ok hey, I love food, we know this.  One great thing about living with Kyle is that we LOVE to try new food and cook together. Over the last few days we've concocted our own "surf & turf" dinner for New Years Eve to my very own all-natural trail mix.  Email me for the recipe!  Tonight we mad some Ahi Tuna and Asian Slaw.  In the words of Rachel Ray, "Yum-O!"  Thank you to my Aunt who gave me the Sandra Lee 20-minute meals cookbook where I picked up some of those choices.  

Take a look at our New Year's Eve din-din: 

(Yes that is a bottle of wine actually called "Bitch", I couldn't resist)

So onto my VH1 celebrity reality sleaze. Not sure if you degrade yourself to the horror that is Rock of Love, but I happened to catch the new season called "Rock of Love Bus"...Degressing...I really just want to see if they'll do some shooting when he came to Niagara Falls this year.  (Any way to see Buffalo on national TV, I'll do it)  During commercials I noticed that they are going to be premiering a TV show called "Tool Academy".  Now this show looks hilarious.  It's a bunch of typical guys who you would normally consider a 'tool'.  (Think "New Haircut" guy)  who basically go to rehab for "douchebags".  Classic. 

After mass this afternoon Kyle and I decided to go old school and take a Sunday drive.  We ended up driving south to Clemson.  Now you would have to be really living under a rock to not know that there are only two teams you root for each college football season down here.  It's either the Clemson Tigers or USC...not THE USC but the University of South Carolina Gamecocks.  Clemson was cute.  Huge campus and lots of orange and these paw prints, EVERYWHERE!:

Cute! 

So tomorrow starts the intense job search.  I've been looking, networking and applying for a few weeks now but nothing beats finding a job when you are actually in the location.   Fingers crossed!  

The blog is back!

Alright folks...as part of my New Year's resolution I'm vowing to make the most of my Damsel in a Dress blog which means more posts!

Much has happened in the last few months:

-The Big Mans and I got engaged! Details are on our wedding page (I'd love to tell the engagement story but you can get it all here: http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/view/co_main.aspx?coupleid=7051647250963138

-I received my Master's Degree in Integrated Marketing Communications. It was one long haul and I rocked my defense. The whole experience made me stronger and taught me a lot. A lot about dealing with certain people. Look...I don't mesh with everyone and SHOCKER...I'm opinionated. I have my opinions and I stick to them. BUT I am opening to listening to others, that's for sure. No one can take that away from me.

-Oh yea...I MOVED! I'm now living in the great state of South Carolina. One BIG change from the usual east coast. Things are QUITE different down here. I'm adjusting and will continue to adjust for awhile. Stay tuned because we all know I'll have something to say about it.

That's about it in a nutshell. Maybe you are thinking "Sooo Jess, what about a job?" Well I don't have one. But I have hope. The south is alive and well. More then can be said for other places in the country. I am very hopeful I'll find an occupation I truly love. What that is...I'm not so sure. But I have a once in a lifetime opportunity to find out and well if you know me...you know I GO BIG OR GO HOME!

So keep in touch and look out for many more posts.